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03.Sep.2020

DISCOVER JAPAN

Japanese Wedding

A good number of my friends were blessed in finding their soulmates and have gotten married this year.Some got married in Japan while others had their wedding elsewhere. I was honoured to have been invited to these weddings, but due to circumstances I was only able to attend one.

Lucky for me, the wedding was a mix of modern and a hint of traditional Japanese wedding hosted in Yokohama.The actual wedding ceremony was held in a chapel, before we moved to main venue where the party was held .

First of all we have the dress code:

Male guest came wearing a suit like most wedding across the glob, while the female guests dressed differently some came wearing a dress while others came dressed in kimons (traditional Japanese cloths).As for the groom, bride’s father and bride’s brother wore a slightly different style of suits that stood out from the rest of us.Something that peaked my interest was that all the Japanese male guests wore a white necktie no matter what the colour of the suit was, while myself and a couple of other guest who are from other countries had a slightly different style.

Then comes the most important bit that people always talk about in my country, THE FOOD!

It felt as if we were in a 5 Michelin star restaurant where everything looked amazing and came in a courses of small sets that did not seem to have an end to.
The meal as well was a mix of Japanese cuisine made in a western style and and western style cuisine which was AMAZING!
The dessert as well was a balanced mix of differ types of cakes and few Japanese sweets such as dango and different sauces such as maccha and such.
As much as I would like to share the description of the taste with you my dear readers, it is rather difficult to do it any justice and I will let you use your imagination from the photos.

The wedding atmosphere:

I don’t believe that I’m alone on this, but I think that because each country have their own tradition at wedding parties, it creates a different atmosphere .For example Bangladesh weddings tends to last for a long period and it gives a vibe of being in a fantasy world with the decorations being fancy and have a lot of colourful outfits that for me it was rather unique.
British weddings tends to be more casual and fun night with family and friends with the after-party being the highlight for some.Libyan weddings tends to be all about socializing, guest essentially judging the wedding as if it is a contest of some sort, plus mothers have a tendency of looking for potential brides for their sons ,which is rather weird to most (possibly because rest of Muslim countries do not practice this as much anymore and non-Muslims do not practice this method at all).
The wedding that I went to had an interesting vibe to it, in a way it felt as if I was watching a play in a theater that we the audience somehow got to take part in.We got to see the actual ceremony, learned about how the groom and bride met, we enjoyed a meal while socializing but we also heard a speech from the bride, groom and their parents all of which was emotional yet formal. there was a live music performance from a very talented singer who was an acquaintance of one of the families and a bit of a comedy act from the bride’s sibling.

 

Music/party:

This is yet another areas that was vastly different from other types of weddings that I have been to thus far.Bangladesh weddings had a lot of traditional songs, but the ones I have been to I have not seen anyone dance.British wedding played songs that meant something to the couple, as well classic songs or whatever is the latest hit.Libyan weddings are essentially a club for ladies where aside from socializing and looking for brides, it is also all about enjoying the party to it’s fullest.My friend’s wedding in Japan however, was nothing like that at all.While there were few of the well known songs being played, most of the songs played more like a nice background noise to the event at hand rather than like in a party where you’re expected to dance.

 

Few tips that I was given before attending the wedding:

  • For the wedding gift, you are expected to give money in odd number and put it in a special envelop for weddings called “goshugi”.
  • Do not wear a black tie, black ties are used for funerals in Japan.
  • Best to avoid synonym to the word “split” this was an advice given to me by my friend stating that it is considered to bring bad luck to the couple’s future.

 

With this, I conclude my experience.It was definitely a different experience for me and I had a blast enjoying a new culture and being part of the happiest day for my friend.I cannot really state that all the weddings in Japan will be the same as this one, but it is the only experience that I have so I hope it helps give an idea about the wedding.
I forgot to mention that it is a common practice in Japanese weddings for guests to receive gifts, this is a small gesture indicating how much they appreciate having you attend the wedding.

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